Sex in Public
To some the idea of sex in public is anathema. To others it’s an intriguing fantasy or even practice. I’ll admit I sometimes have this fantasy. Have I ever acted this fantasy out? Somewhat, in a car parked in the desert, covered up in the back of a pick up truck in a drive-in movie theater, (remember them?) and finally, on a balcony in the middle of the night.
What do people find so fascinating about having sex in public? It has to be the the chance of being discovered—of being watched. Yes, I believe It’s a form of exhibitionism.
As I started writing this article, I started thinking about all the instances of sex in public I h
ave used in my books. By the Book is rift with them—in a theater, the ocean, the bathroom of a bar (where two barflies catch and watch them), in a night club (where they are caught on closed circuit TV and everyone claps for them as they leave red-faced). In addition, examples of sex in public places heat up the pages of Love and Seduction in
I write about it all the time because the fact is, p
eople do it all the time. At work, in restrooms, in parks, in lomos, cabs and on subways (remember Risky Business). Some do it fully dressed, while others take some or all of their clothes off. Some do it in a tent while camping, where they are safe from sight, but everyone can hear them, or the go off in the wilds. Some do it on a beach, or in the water. Then there’s the ultimate sex in public—orgies, where everyone feeds off the 
sex of others. And in each and every case the participants find it exciting. Why? I don’t know. You tell me. Perhaps it’s their way of saying to the world, “Hey look at me, I’m ALIVE!
Have you ever done it? If not, do you think about it, maybe even on a stage with an audience? (I have) Would you do it? Would it be safe or reckless?
17 comments:
Just reading "The Edge of Sin" by Cheyenne McCray from "Real Men Last All Night" and the scene in the restroom is so Hot!! I think everyone's fantasy is having sex in public.
I love the 'on the dance floor' real sex. Nice fantasy for me.
Like you wrote, it makes you feel "ALIVE"!
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LOL The thought of my 29 year hubby loosening up enought to 'do it in public' makes me laugh. He won't even hold hands in public. (snort)
But think about it? Absolutely! I love hot passion and intimate moments filled with that ultimate feeling of getting caught.
Our three kids when they were little almost caught us as we fell off the bed, landing over top of the dog (we didn't hurt him, poor thing) I was holding us up with my hand, as was my hubby and the kids shouted at the noise and laughter we made. We had to yell at them not to come into the bedroom! LOL
Funniest moment we ever had in bed though definately a shocker.
Great Blog Dee. It brought a big chuckle at fond memories.
Franny Armstrong
Interesting discussion for a soft-porn site. It's a fetish of mine and so let me start with an exercise in classifcation. There are ample video porn sites devoted to public fantasies. They tend to fall into 5 story-line categories:
(1) quickies around the corner from a crowd, partially hidden by buildings or trees, etc.
(2) romantic semi-secluded beach, field, bathroom or parking lot scenes
(3) fully- or partially-clothed (same locations, but more people around)
(4)full-on sex in large crowds as if there are no laws, taking huge risks and either not caring about repercussions or the movie presents it as if the world does not care and actually enjoys it too (requires suspension of disbelief by the viewer to go along with the fantasy)
(5)shocking public degradation -- very planned scenarios, lots of BDSM, requires a huge dose of suspension of disbelief also.
Each "genre" varies on what public means -- from just one other unsuspecting person happening upon a romantic interlude to small groups to crowds to spy-cameras. Most are presented as "reality" to feed the "spontaneity factor" which I think is a large part of the general appeal, by the way, but not in the case of the degradation genre; it is more about control and shock rather than spontaneity and romance.
My own reality involved caressing each other while watching "I Am A Sex Addict" in the movie theater and then going to a local park and continuing behind a tree while walkers on the nearby trail unsuspectedly talked to each other about the weather. Another by a fence in the parking lot of a well-attended bar. All totally illegal and subject to felony charges.
One I witnessed but did not participate was at a local rock concert a man with a trench coat draped over his shoulders, as European men often do, was making love from behind to a beautifully short-skirted, bare-legged women right next to me for a long while before all noticed. It was surprisingly well-accepted by the crowd and the band (no one said a word to them or made a fuss), but smiles/giggles were prevalent when they finally left. I say surprisingly since I would NOT expect most random crowds to react this way, nor should you. I would much rather expect a bouncer or law enforcement official to take them into custody.
Thanks Debbie, Sure am pleased you liked it. I have a feeling being watched having sex along with flying is the number one fantasy. LOL
Thanks Fanny, Maybe you need to educate Hubby a little. I know get him drunk. That always works, :)
I have a scene in one of my stories where my couple has sex in a secluded part of a huge city park. I think it's the sense of forbidden adventure that drives some couples to try it. I can say that yeah, I have fantasized about it. There's a bit of a naughty nymph in me. Very interesting post.
Hey Anonymous, The one you mentioned at the rock concert wasn't Woodstock was it? Naw, that was ages ago. There was certainly a lot of four letter things going on there. Whew!LOL
Hey Thanks Melissa, Good for you. I hadn't realized until I started this blog, just how many times I had written public sex into my books. April Showers, my latest book, which won't be out until at least January, has a park thing. In this case it's more of a dom/submission thing where the man, exercising control, makes sure they're watched.
Hmmmm. I know this is a fantasy of many and I've done it (didn't think I had until someone mentioned the movie theater and drive-in *blushes*) but to purposefully have sex with people watching? Hmmm ... not sure on that one. I guess there's a little naughty in me though since I do manage to sneak it into my books. *g*
Nice blog, Dee.
Hi Nina, Thanks for reading and commenting. LOL. Yeah they used to call drive ins passion pits.:)
April Showers sounds like it will be one sexy cool story.
Hi Melissa,
If by cool you mean naughty it is. In the extreme. By the name I gave it sounds like a love story, but it really is super intense.
I love naughty and intense. I can't wait to read it.
Well unfortunately it'll be six months. I'll let you read the Blurb though.
Mrs. Helen Ryan the young beautiful wife of Dr. Herbert Ryan is shopping in her favorite grocery store, when a sordid episode from her past slams into her. You see, as college juniors seven years ago, she and two friends took their spring break in Las Vegas, working the two weeks as high priced call girls. Her working name had been April Showers and now, someone she refused to look at was calling her April.
In a panic, she rushes into the ladies room. When she thinks the coast is clear she rushes through the checkout stand looking wide eyed at everyone, wondering if the person who called her April was still around. Was watching her.
Breathing a sigh of relief, Helen heads to her posh Paradise Valley home in her BMW and alleged safety, only to find out it wasn’t so safe after all.
Hey, Dee... loved this post. I can say that I've thought about it... and I've done it. I think that it's the thrill of getting caught, and if you are caught, can you play it off or get them to just watch? Yanno.
I actually had a thought about it while with my family in (of all places) Disneyland. You're not the only dirty girl... but I restrained myself, at least to the point that I didn't do it, but my muse was sure intrigued. "The happiest place on earth, huh? Yeah, only if you..." uh huh, that's how she thinks.
Also, I have to disagree with Anonymous... it's not a soft-porn site. It's a Porn-With-Romance-and-A-Plot site... :-D Great blog, Dee
LOL, I just reread my post... sorry, dee... you're not the only dirty MIND... *snicker* Got in the groove of typing and realized AFTER the fact... yeah. Just got my hair done... I"m a little more blonde than usual. :-D
Hi Kealie, Thanks for reading and you comments. I sounds like my blog was right up your alley. Lol Disneyland huh? I can just picture a couple (you) getting it on in the Pirates of the Caribbean or It's a Small World.LOL Good one.
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