I found this to be true when I was younger and dated men in the younger portion of that age range. I had a semi-exclusive relationship with a man of 57 when I was 21. He was insanely jealous when any man so much as stared a bit too long at me. Granted, I dated plenty of men and had sex with more than one partner, so he knew there was competition. I didn't want to be tied down. He didn't have erectile problems, though. In fact, when he felt insecure about not being the only man in my life, he tended to be a bit … how do I put this? … spirited. He thrust harder as if he needed to prove to himself he was my best lover. I did have another man who was 50 who did have erectile problems when he was with me. It never occurred to me he could have felt insecure over being compared to other men – and he fell short. I liked to play the field, even though I had one serious relationship along with "friends with benefits" before it became popular.
Catherine Stone in my novel Don't Call Me Baby has a similar outlook but not those kinds of experiences. This book will be released by Naughty Nights Press in September, 2011. Here's a description of the book:
Don't Call Me Baby is a fast-paced, quick-witted, sexy novel about a young woman exploring her sexuality and the cultural morés she collides with on a daily basis. It's 1983 in Maryland and Catherine Stone is sex on wheels. She plays the field the way men have done for aeons. Not content to strive for her MRS degree like so many young women her age, she seduces men of all stripes - married college professors, theatre students, virgins, complete strangers who intrigue her. She has already cost one man his job. But she asks herself lots of questions on her search to enjoy her sexuality. Why don't other women enjoy their sex as much as she does? Why do so many women and men look down on sexually free women, calling them sluts while sexually free men are called studs and Lotharios? She bucks at the double standards! Catherine has made no commitment to any man. She's free to explore and she gladly does so. No man can tie her down and no woman's judgment will stop her from playing the field to her heart's content. Does she meet her match in a new man who introduces her to sexual bliss she had never before experienced? When she tries multiple partners and bondage for the first time as a submissive, she believes she's found the sexual bliss she is looking for - and with a man who not only introduces her to the fineries in life but also cares about her like no man ever has before.