Sex Positivity

Consent, Pleasure, Well Being. The term Sex Positivity has been around for a while and can mean many different things to different people.

Lately I’ve been following blogger and Sex Educator Charlie Glickman, and I like his definition best of all. The only criteria for evaluating any sex act, he says, are consent, pleasure, and well being.

Being sex positive doesn’t mean that we love sex, or have lots of it, or think everyone should practice free love. In fact, it means we don’t judge what anyone else wants to practice – gay, straight, kinky, vanilla, monogamous, polyamorous or celibate – beyond those three cardinal parameters:

Is it consensual? Are all the parties adult, are they aware and informed about what they’re doing, and have they agreed? Is it pleasurable for the parties involved? Does it contribute to the well being of all who are involved? I am reminded of the Wiccan rede, An it harm none.

What does this have to do with the erotic romance my husband and I write? Right now, we’re polishing off another entry in our Swinging Games series at Extasy Books. In that series a married baby boomer couple have expanded their sexual practice to become part of the swing lifestyle. Being sex positive means we don’t judge them or their practice, so long as they agree it’s consensual, pleasurable and contributes to their well being. And, of course, we hope that reading about what they’re up to is consensual, pleasurable, and contributes to readers’ well being!

Swinging Games: Too Close for Comfort is due out from Extasy Books early this summer. Books One through Eight are available now at Extasy Books.

Censorship Rears Its Ugly Head Again

Happy Friday the 13th, everyone! I have bad news perfect for today.

Mastercard is getting into the censorship business. Here's what I learned yesterday and I've been updated this morning.

URGENT to All Fiction4All Authors and Associated Publishers

Hi,

An hour ago I was notified by Verotel that Mastercard is changing its policies (again) and that as from now, content involving rape, torture, kidnap, or `forced sex` (not sure where that is different to rape, but Mastercard must do) is banned and Verotel will not be able to process for it. They say this includes both the words and also images inferring such content. How on earth any robot can decide if an image depicts an unwanted action is beyond me, but that is what Verotel have decreed.

We have four sites where Mastercard have specifically complained about content (A1AdultEbooks.com, bdsmbooks.com bdsm-books.com and ebooks4adults.com).

I have basically been given until Friday morning to remove content containing the new offending word list or images from my sites or Verotel will close my account with them.

A quick scan of our books catalogue indicate we currently have just over 880 books on sale which contain one or more words that Mastercard apparently now objects to, either in the title, blurb or excerpt/extract. I have no idea how many covers would fall foul of them and certainly no time or resources to check and alter over 880 books in just over 24 hours!

My decision is to initially ask Verotel to stop processing on these 4 sites. Two of them I already have Zombaio in place on, or can reactivate Zombaio in the next 24 hours. A third site can be redirected to one of the other two until I get a payment solution installed. The fourth site does about $20 a month in sales and can be converted easily to use PayPal (who will have no issues with it).

This is a stop-gap measure to see if this is a Verotel or a Mastercard decision. If ultimately it turns out to be down to Mastercard then PayPal and Zombaio will also end up having to complain about certain content. At that time the 880 books will have to be removed from sale, though I hope by then we can change some of them or tone down what is visible on the sites.

From now, can I ask you all PLEASE not to submit stories that contain the following words in titles, blurbs and extracts:

1) rape, rapist, raping (even if it is worded as `she wondered if he was about to rape her`) - use words like violated, f##ked or whatever instead

2) torture, kidnap, force and other words containing these words (eg tortured, torturing etc etc)

I know this is a real pain and I know that selling fiction with these words in it is legal - but I don`t have the resources to fight Mastercard, so we all need to play by the rules and hope to survive another day.

Also, ALL books submitted MUST be free of any images whatsoever. We`re already removing all images from any books that are on the publishing queues. Also, if you are providing covers please make sure they no longer give any indication of `kidnap, torture or forced sex` as well as all the things that have been banned in the past.

Meanwhile if you are a publisher or self-pub and hear of any other sites having problems having this content, please let me know.

If we have to remove any books from sale I will contact the relevant publisher/author individually, but I thought everyone should know about the latest swipe at adult entertainment.


Kind Regards
Stuart
CEO Fiction4All (including A1AdultEbooks)

Stuart believed that this was being led by Verotel rather than Mastercard itself. This, however, no longer appears to be the case - he has spoken to them at some length today and they are adamant this is coming from Mastercard. More worryingly, he has obtained a list of words that cannot be used in erotica titles, blurbs, descriptions etc and these also target lactation and even tentacle erotica! There is also a stark warning that things are going to get a lot worse and one wonders if the targeting of dubcon is the beginning of a wider attack on BDSM. This from Selena Kitt:

Stuart said to me: "I’ve spent all day talking to Verotel’s Director of Risk and he assures me this is not a Verotel thing but directly from Mastercard. He also said, ominously, that things are going to get much worse in the near future."

What does THAT mean!? How can Paypal continue to stand on its policy, if MC is pulling this?

Stuart also provided me with a list of words Mastercard now will not allow in relation to erotica/sex, including the book title, blurb and excerpt!

Alcohol, drink, liquor etc.
Asphyxia, asphyxiate, asphyxiation etc.
Beastiality
Bestiality
Bled, Bleed, Bleeding etc
Blood
Brutality
Brutalization
Child
Chloroform
Drugged, Drug
Drunk
Force, Forcing etc
Hypnosis
Hypnotize, hypnotise etc
Incapacitate, Incapacitation etc
Incest
Infant
Intoxicate, intoxication etc
Kidnap
Lactate and variants
Menstrual, menstruate etc
Molest, molestation, molested etc
Murder (and variations)
Mutlilate, Mutilation etc
Necrophilia
Passed out
Pedophilia (and various alternate spellings)
Piss
Rape, raping, rapist etc
Scat, shit, fecal, bukake etc
Fetal, foetal etc
Sedate, sedative sedation etc
Sleep, slumber
Smother, snuff
Tentacle
Torture
Unconscious
Underage
Unwilling
Violate, violating etc

Worrying stuff, I'm sure you'll agree. I will pass on any further information as and when I have it but you may be able to find out even more than me. Incidentally, Stuart's email is: admin@fiction4all.com

Regards
Katie

More censorship! What year is this, 1950? That list of forbidden words is downright Orwellian.

My short story "Purr" was censored and banned the last go-around with Paypal. That particular story is an erotic retelling of the fairy tale "Puss In Boots". It's likely to be censored again, this time because I include lactation as a sexual fetish in the story. I don't believe I used the words "lactation" or "lactate", but when you reach the scene it's pretty clear what's going on. I've noticed that people who have bought "Purr" have also bought other lactation fetish fiction.

So, pick up "Purr" before it goes away again. Here's all the information you could possibly want about that book.

Name: Elizabeth Black
Title: Purr (Based on "Puss In Boots")
Publisher: New Dawning Bookfair
Genre: Twisted Fairy Tale
Size: Short Story
ASIN: B005407APY
Cost: $2.99

Buy Links:

New Dawning Bookfair

Amazon Kindle

Smashwords

AllRomanceEBooks - NOTE: It looks like "Purr" has been pulled again from ARe. It also looks like my entire publisher's catalogue has been removed. Again. [UPDATE: The pub is back at ARe and so is "Purr". Seems ARe is futzing with listings now.]

Purr Blog Category:

http://elizabethablack.blogspot.com/search/label/Purr

Blurb:

The alluring puss in boots Muca aspired for her master to become the richest and most respected man in the land, but her job was cut out for her. Could she convince the local farmers to trust in her against the vicious ogre who ruled the region?

Excerpt:

"Good afternoon, cat! How went your trip to the king?"

She smiled, happy he recognized her. She gave the farmer a confident smile, eager to continue her plan. She strode to him, and gave him a deep, elegant bow. "Very well, my friend. He enjoyed the gifts of my Master, the Marquis of Carabas." The farmer's wife nursed her infant, her full breasts spilling out from beneath her flowing cotton blouse. Such a hypnotic sight! An urge overwhelmed her to take a suck herself. She had a weakness for soft, enormous breasts, especially ones filled with milk. Her groin warmed, and shifted her stance to take the pressure from her arousal. "You have a fine infant there. How old is he?"

"Six months, and my wife has lost all her baby weight. Those breasts are especially nice, particularly late at night when it's cold outside." He smiled, walked to Muca, and laid a hand on her shoulder. "I see you're as enraptured as I am of her."

"She is indeed a fine woman, sir."

Love They Neighbor

Jayden Mathews had writer’s block. His latest erotic romance novel was stuck, and he couldn’t seem to find the inspiration to finish. It’s not as if he wasn’t an angst-filled romantic himself. He’d moved on, he thought, from the death of his first love Olivia, and was trying to create a life with Mallie, a woman he’d found new happiness with. But still… He needed an inspiration, a sign, but was he ready for Olivia’s Haunting. Releasing from www.romancedivine.com on April 6th.

Sheriff Duke Mackey got more than he bargained for when he locked up his latest outlaw. The conflict of duty versus family results in a professional and personal tragedy. When the town needs him later, will he turn his back, or forgive their treachery, strap back on his gun and ride to their rescue? Releasing from www.romancedivine.com on April 6th.

Love Thy Neighbor
I’m going off subject a bit today with my blog. I wanted to write about the young man gunned down in Florida by a man acting as a neighborhood watch captain.
I listened to the many news reports and still couldn’t wrap my mind around a person killing someone for looking suspicious wearing a hoodie and walking through a dark street in a gated community.
After watching the TV programs showing video of the man responsible for the shooting walking into the police station minutes afterward, I couldn’t see any bloody damage to the man’s nose, or head as he claimed.
The news reports stated the young man fought with his assailant. If he did, I believe that was understandable in trying to get away. When the assailant called 911 to report a suspicious looking person on the street, the police told him to back off because a patrol car was on route. The assailant ignored the warning and kept on following the young man.
The Sentinel Newspaper in Florida asked an expert in voice recognition to evaluate the 911 call made by the assailant. The voice expert also used the screams for help heard from a neighbor’s phone while they called 911 after hearing the disturbance outside their home.
The assailant claimed he was the one screaming for help, but the expert checking the voices stated it was the victim’s voice calling for help.
It makes a person wonder what our future holds when injustices like this happen. My heart goes out to the young man’s parents. Their pain must be horrific in losing their young son, not yet a man.
I’m wondering what is happening in our society. When did it become the norm to attack another human being and take his or her life over looking suspicious? I don’t see the reasoning behind such actions. To make the situation worse, the police haven’t arrested anyone yet over the shooting. I’m hopeful law enforcement and the court finds the right answers.
If any of you have followed the story, how do you feel about what took place on the dark street in Florida? Was the neighborhood watch person within his rights to gun the young man down? Violence in our society has become an every day occurrence and I feel we must do something to stop it.

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